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Kinks and squicks - musings...

I think possibly it's easier to pick up new kinks than to get rid of old squicks.

Because lately I've discovered quite a few new to recent tastes as far as kink goes. I often find myself thinking, "meh, not my thing" when applying a kink to one pairing, but then thinking of it with another and suddenly, it's "I could give that a try, maybe," or "whoa, that's hot!"

But squicks are deep and hard to remove. For example, dominant males in het = huge squick for me. Bone-deep. Although so many find it hot, I just can't enjoy it. It being my ex's kink is one reason why we didn't work out.

I've tried to make it appeal to me, just because it's a favorite kink of so many and it seems to be the "norm" in many fandoms, but I just can't get aroused by it. Just the way I am, I guess. Does it make me weird? Maybe...

But I am really enjoying the femdom het these days. As a writer, reader and RPer. Women in charge = sexy to me! And even that is a fairly recent kink as a few years ago I refused to read or write het at all.

It's weird - I love dominant men in slash. So why do I dislike them so in het???

Another thing I've discovered is that... odd though it seems, I can probably write just about any pairing these days in the fandoms I like! I have my OTPs and OT3s of course, but occasional straying to something new can be fun. I used to think there were some pairings I could never write. But if I can do tentacles, I guess "can't" is no longer in my vocabulary! ;)

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mr_henry_gale
Apr. 3rd, 2009 06:56 am (UTC)
Whoever the dom is, I prefer reading/writing about male subs. (I can relate to the character more, hehe.)

And, erm, how many strokes is Ben getting? ;-)
sweetcarolanne
Apr. 3rd, 2009 06:59 am (UTC)
Ooh, I like the sound of that! :D

Hmm, bad puppy got 15 last time. Now he's all healed he can take double that I think! Maybe with a cane this time? (And should John Locke be allowed to watch?) ;)
mr_henry_gale
Apr. 3rd, 2009 03:16 pm (UTC)
Forget John Locke! *I* should be allowed to watch! And then I should be caned next!
sweetcarolanne
Apr. 4th, 2009 03:37 am (UTC)
Now YOU'RE a bad puppy, LOL! :D
mr_henry_gale
Apr. 4th, 2009 04:44 am (UTC)
Ruff. ;-)
sweetcarolanne
Apr. 4th, 2009 11:15 pm (UTC)
*giggles* Bad boy!

No biscuit for you - unless you beg nicely! ;)

Edited at 2009-04-04 11:15 pm (UTC)
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sweetcarolanne
Apr. 3rd, 2009 09:19 am (UTC)
HEARTS!!!
And I must say - this comment is full of so much win!!! :D

Ooh, there's Addams family fic? Where??? *childhood fave, is all squee*

I do wish there was more femdom in fandom in general. There is a little in Harry Potter but it's hard to find amongst all the other stuff... and most writers tend not to label who's the dom in a story anyway so I often pass over stuff I might have read otherwise, sadly. And I am so glad you like my take on characters... *blush* My idea about a lot of tough guys and other powerful men is, some of them would like a break from all of that power now and again. Even Cthulhu. *blushes*

With you on the bad grammar. The Saw fic that pissed me off above all others mainly did so not because the heroine was a Mary Sue (she was) or because the plot was unrealistic in the extreme (it was) or because I wondered if the author had even watched Saw (I did) but because the spelling and grammar was so awful as to make the fic nearly unreadable (Billy is a "vestrial doll"? WTF IS THAT???)
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sweetcarolanne
Apr. 3rd, 2009 09:49 am (UTC)
If you ever do find a place to post it, I'd love to read it! And I remember the old series, and Ophelia, well (those daisies, LOL!)

Morticia would make a badass Domme indeed. (recalling the line from the movie about "the old ball and chain..." "I'll get them!")

And yes, Cthulhu does need a break, and so do his tentacles. ;) I wish I could find Lin Carter's writings - he wrote about Idh-yaa, the androgynous being Cthulhu was supposedly "married" to - if anyone could dominate the Great Old One, it'd be someone like that! ;)
mr_henry_gale
Apr. 4th, 2009 04:22 am (UTC)
Heh, I've always thought of Morticia as a domme figure.
sweetcarolanne
Apr. 4th, 2009 11:15 pm (UTC)
Ooh yes, she's beautiful and scary enough! :D
antigoneschase
Apr. 3rd, 2009 11:49 am (UTC)
Randomly, I'm working on something for you. *wicked little grin as she runs off*
sweetcarolanne
Apr. 4th, 2009 03:37 am (UTC)
Oooh, yay! *squees and hugs you*

Still working on something for you too... will be busy tonight sadly, but should have it up online for you in the next couple of days, RL willing! :)
antigoneschase
Apr. 4th, 2009 08:51 pm (UTC)
COMMENT PORN (okay, not that porny, but hot hopefully)
One heavy click of heels against cement and he turns toward the sound, his body straining toward it. He cannot speak, and he's been left without the gift of sight as well. She stands, looking over the vision he creates on the small bed, his arms captured above his head and his ankles spread and latched to the iron frame of the bed. She has the control, and she's left him no doubt about that. The blindfold and gag had just been the icing on the cake. One last way of taking all power away from him.

Not that he doesn't like it. She need not even look at the jut of his cock to know how much he craves the torment. After all, doesn't he whimper softly through the soft silk? And doesn't he reach for her, even though he knows how futile it is to even try?

She moves her hand, the crop in it light and as always feeling dangerous. One flick too hard, and she could damage him. The bad thing about that is that both of them would revel in that, and she can't risk the loss on control. Not now. One tiny movement of her wrist and the crop hits true, leaving a red mark on his inner thigh.

He lets out a breathless moan, lifting his hips almost off the bed, seeking more. He would ask for it if she left him his voice, but that voice has the special privilege of always making her do exactly what he asks, as soon as he does, and she doesn't want to give in. Not yet.

She doesn't speak, but she does move, and she watches him move his head as if tracking her movements. That's fine. Good, in fact. She won't completely surprise him, but that too can be fun. The shiver of anticipation, at the very least, makes her smirk lazily. Another flick of her wrist, and another red mark. This time almost too close to the base of his cock. Not for her. She knows exactly what she's doing for once in her life. He, however, hisses and almost pulls away.

She leans just a little, reaching to touch him, and the first brush of her fingers DOES make him pull away, until he realizes that the touch doesn't sting. Not that the next time won't. She is good at both pleasure and pain, and she loves nothing more than making him want both at once.

Her touch is quick, and it earns her another whimper. She laughs and stops, drawing back again. How it amuses her to imagine those who think of him as a cold, calculating killer seeing him like this, wanton and under her will. And how they would be confused by her like this, strong and powerful, so far from the Stockholm Syndrome they imagine for her.

Sometimes she wonders if he isn't the one with Stockholm Syndrome.

She reaches to run her nails up his leg from his knee, dragging them hard enough to leave deep red lines behind, the sound of surprise and pain he makes making her body react. She should have pressed harder, watched him bleed. Her breath is coming faster and she takes a step back, forcing herself to still.

He tries to say something past the gag and she feels a surge of heat, but she keeps her voice as cool as possible. "Sorry, love, I can't understand a word you say around that." She lets the smirk pull her face, knowing he'll hear it in her tone. She leans down again, pressing her mouth against his ear, her voice low and husky. "Did you say 'please'? Did you beg, John?"

She feels, rather than sees, him nod, and laughs under her breath. "I like it when you beg," she murmurs.
sweetcarolanne
Apr. 4th, 2009 11:13 pm (UTC)
Re: COMMENT PORN (okay, not that porny, but hot hopefully)
OMG that is the hottest thing EVER!

I just love Domme!Amanda and John is willing to submit to her any time... I do hope you'll be inspired to write more of them soon... I am definitely inspired to perfect and soon post the spanking fic now!

*hugs you much* I do love this fic, and you for writing it - hope you'll post it to angelfiends too! My John muse adores submitting to Amanda! *hearts*

And how they would be confused by her like this, strong and powerful, so far from the Stockholm Syndrome they imagine for her.

Sometimes she wonders if he isn't the one with Stockholm Syndrome.


Most perfect line EVER. *adores you*
antigoneschase
Apr. 4th, 2009 11:37 pm (UTC)
Re: COMMENT PORN (okay, not that porny, but hot hopefully)
I'll probably write more of them in the next few days. It was fun to write,and Amanda is smirking at me, which usually means more porn is coming. *laughs*

I'm glad you liked it, honey! I may post it over there... it may need some editing and I may wait until I've got more so I can post something bigger. But I wanted to get that part out to you, since... well, since I could and I wanted you to smile.

*grins* She's always telling me John's the one with Stockholm, not her. I just roll my eyes. BUT maybe she has a point. LOL
sweetcarolanne
Apr. 4th, 2009 11:47 pm (UTC)
Re: COMMENT PORN (okay, not that porny, but hot hopefully)
Aww! *snugs* You're an angel! Ooh, and I love it when Amanda smirks - especially if that means more is coming! I love your writing! :D

I think she does have a point, and John is blushing, which means that maybe Amanda's right! *purr*
mr_henry_gale
Apr. 5th, 2009 03:33 am (UTC)
Re: COMMENT PORN (okay, not that porny, but hot hopefully)
Ooh, I love this!

(Hope you don't mind me reading it.)
antigoneschase
Apr. 5th, 2009 04:20 am (UTC)
Re: COMMENT PORN (okay, not that porny, but hot hopefully)
I don't mind at all. I'm glad you liked it.
arachnerd
Apr. 6th, 2009 03:10 am (UTC)
i totally agree.
sweetcarolanne
Apr. 6th, 2009 09:03 am (UTC)
:D YAY!
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